Embracing the Seasons: Reflections on Aging with Cicero

Marcus Tullius Cicero

Recently I spent a quiet afternoon with Cicero’s How to Grow Old—a slim volume, rich in wisdom. I didn’t time myself, but I suspect it took just over two hours to finish, making it an accessible recommendation for clients seeking guidance on aging.

What struck me most was Cicero’s reverence for old age. He holds it in high regard—but with an important caveat: a good old age begins in youth. Virtues such as moderation, wisdom, clear thinking, and the enjoyment of life don’t emerge suddenly with the passing of years. They are cultivated over time. As any virtue ethicist today would agree, the seeds we plant early matter. I have certainly noticed that for those of my clients who arrive at later stages of life having pursued genuine happiness or self-development, the path forward often feels lighter, clearer.

Living in the Right Season

When we’re younger, life pulls us toward movement—restaurants, shopping, performances.

These once held a special allure. But now, being older, I find peace in being still. I no longer

need to go anywhere to experience beauty; it’s right outside my window.

Cicero speaks of the “seasons” of life and the importance of honoring the one we are in. That

sentiment resonates deeply. I feel newly motivated to clear out my wardrobe—letting go of

pieces that belong to a different season, like mini skirts or sleeveless blouses. This is not

resignation. It’s alignment. It’s clarity. By fully embracing this stage, I can be more at peace with myself—and more understandable to others.

The Responsibility of Wisdom

One of Cicero’s gentler urgings is that older people have a duty to teach the young. Wisdom born of experience isn’t just a personal treasure—it’s a communal gift. I’m fortunate to be able to pass this on to younger clients who welcome it. Young people are eager learners, and I find joy in their energy even as I share what I’ve learned.

And despite limitations, old age doesn’t mean giving up on an active life. I’m still committed to my routines—less intense than before, but steady. I once spent 20 hours a week in dance classes. Today, I still exercise, but with routines appropriate to my age. Now I find that I prefer reading, writing, and connecting with clients. Different seasons, different rhythms.

Desire and Depth

Cicero’s thoughts on sex are striking—he calls it overrated, a force that can lead us to act

foolishly. In younger years, I wouldn't have accepted that. But now, I understand. As desire quiets, other dimensions of relationship and human connection take center stage—ones that feel more enduring and deeply fulfilling.

Welcoming the End with Grace

Finally, Cicero encourages us not to fear death. When life has been well-lived, grasping

desperately at its final moments is unnecessary—and even unwise. Willa Cather captured this beautifully in Death Comes for the Archbishop, and I saw it lived out by my parents, Jake and Jan.

A Final Reflection

To age well is to embrace aging fully. The sooner we welcome the final chapter of life, the more meaning we can draw from it. As for me, I believe I am in the right place to flourish—exactly as I am, exactly where I am. We shall see.